Relationships

It is vital to make sure clients are safe in their relationships.  There are several different types of safety plans on this page including relational safety.

All couples have conflict - that's normal.  Conflict becomes unhealthy when partners don't fight fair.

• Fair Fighting Rules

• Resolving Conflict

• Forgiveness

A genogram is a visual representation of a family tree that includes relationship dynamics and patterns.

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• How to Make a Genogram

• Blank Genogram

We all have different ways that we give and receive love.  Here are assessments to determine what each love language is.

• Husband Assessment

• Wife Assessment

• Gender Neutral/Single Assessment

How to meet the needs for each love language.​

• Acts of Service

• Physical Touch

• Quality Time

• Receiving Gifts

• Words of Affirmation

John Gottman is one of the leading relationship experts.  He has several books and trainings available.  

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• The Gottman Institute

• Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

• The Four Horsemen

• Gottman Questionnaire

Forgiveness is vital for any relationship.  This is a forgiveness exercise for couples that can be adapted for families.

• Read the Instructions

• Complete the Hurts Committed Sheet

• Complete the Hurts Suffered Sheet

• Discuss the Hurts Committed Sheet one at a time, taking turns, and forgive

• Exchange lists and tear up

• Cross off any hurts suffered already forgiven

• Discuss any remaining hurts suffered one at a time

• Tear up

• Worksheets

  • Hurts Lists Instructions & Worksheets

  • Forgiveness

• Gender Role Expectations

• Great Expectations Quiz

• Unexpected Acts of Love

Print these on both sides (front/back).  These provide conversation starters for couples on dates.  Some couples who have been together for several years may need help knowing what to talk about (especially after kids).

These are dating ideas that are great for those who are not married, but even better for those who have been married a while and are in a rut.

• Husband/partner checks off all date ideas he would like to do

• Wife/partner checks off all date ideas she would like to do

• Any ideas both partners checked are good date ideas.  

• Ones only one checked off can be for their birthdays or other special occasions.

• Other date ideas - 101 Cheap Date Ideas

We all have emotions that fill our cup.  When our cup is full of anger, resentment, pain, anxiety, when you put one more stressful thing in, our cup overflows with depression, anger, and more.  We have to learn what fills our cup, process and empty the negative emotions, and replace them with positive emotions.  Then when stress happens, our cup overflows with patience and understanding.  The worksheets below explain how to work through this with clients.  One has Bible verses and one does not.

• Emotional Cup - Christian

• Emotional Cup - Regular

• Adlerian Lifestyle Questionnaire

A research study by psychologist Arthur Aron on questions that foster vulnerability in a relationship.